Animator, Rachel Peters recently noticed actress, Mayim Bialik was expressing having a tough time being trolled on social media for having her own opinions on serious world issues, as human beings are want to do. As Jimmy Kimmel’s “Mean Tweets” segment illustrates, we too often forget there are real people behind those social media profiles. It’s too easy to whip off a destructive comment to an artist who’s only crime was trying to be accessible to you.
As a child of the 80’s and 90’s, Rachel couldn’t let this happen to her Blossom without answering to it in some way. So, she called in her old friend, Illustrator, Alex Diochon to help her in a new drawing challenge. They needed to work towards giving Mayim something fun to see on the internet.
The result, Mayim Bialik beating up trolls.
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If you haven’t read my first opinion piece on this topic, you can find it here: http://rachelpeters.com/the-future-of-a-nation/3252/
I’ve heard people use the term “politically incorrect” over and over again in describing the way Canadian businessman, Kevin O’Leary has spoken to the public over the years. Now that he is running for politics, I feel the need to speak up.
It is not “politically incorrect” to be unkind, unempathetic , and uncompassionate. It’s simply a display of a defective person. These are not respectable traits and they are not assets for leadership.
More troubling, I’ve heard news outlets refer to his comments as “provocative”. What’s provocative about a man boasting of his greed and how millions of people in poverty only need to be motivated to be more like him? What’s so provocative about a self-obsessed, rich, white man who’s completely out of touch with 99% of Canadians and their struggles? What is provocative about a man who says he doesn’t care about anything but money?
The only thing it provokes in me is nausea.
So, I suppose that week-old eggplant sandwich I tried to eat last night was also “provocative”.
Kevin has said he would like to distance himself from the things he’s said on TV. I’m sure he would! Wouldn’t we all love to distance ourselves from all the times we’ve said ignorant things! But, you know what? It’s called “Toughski Schittski”. There are consiquenses to the words you speak. You can’t apply for a management position, show up with no experience on your resume and then ask the interviewer to take it easy on you and please not check your references, because you’d like to distance yourself from all the terrible things you’ve said.
It doesn’t work that way anywhere else, Kevin.
You apply for this job, you have to answer for that you’ve told us you believe in.
You know what would be truly provocative? If you stopped talking and started serving the public in any selfless way. If you want be the boss of public service, show us you’re even remotely capable. You’ve got a little catch-up to play, though, because all those “career politicians” you scoff at – they’ve been giving their lives to the people for decades. So get to it!
It’s not personal, Kevin. It’s just business.
I’m new-ish to Twitter (have had the account for a decade, but only started using it recently).
Today I tweeted at Canadian rich guy, Kevin O’Leary in response to his announcement that he’ll be running as the leader of the Conservative party, based on his experience playing a successful business man on television.
My sincere question to him via Twitter was this:
“In running for a position of public service, what experience do you personally have in serving the public… and how might you convince me you have the public’s best interest in mind. The impoverished and the middle class.”
Of course, this was drastically shortened from the tweets I wanted to send, but I declined creating a seventeen-part, Drumpf-esque rant.
So, I will continue my questions to him here, full-well knowing he will never read them, but rather I’ll write for my own catharsis and to appease my light sprinkling of OCD, which I have found, when executed wisely, can be quite useful to me.
O’Leary’s opening statement on his “Why I’m Running” page of olearyforcanada.ca begins with “Canada cannot afford another 4 years of Justin Trudeau”.
There are plenty of things I don’t like about the current Liberal government (I didn’t vote for them, but I also didn’t vote Conservative). But I’ll tell you what else Canada cannot afford in this political climate — its own greedy billionaire leader.
So, Kevin, you have some things you need to prove to the public before going any further.
You continue on in your statement to say that Canadians need “a Prime Minister who will fight for them”. This is a true statement. We absolutely do. So what you need to do is show us some evidence that you are capable of this — any proof at all that you would fight for us.
I’ll tell you why I and many Canadians are wary:
It’s because of the sum of what most Canadians know of you. We know you as someone who’s famous for being a rich guy on a reality show — a show that, much like the “Got Talent” franchise, makes its money off the backs of talented people who are desperate to make any money at all. And on this show, you seem to really enjoy playing the character of the greedy villain who doesn’t care how anyone feels. I sincerely hope it’s just a character, but I have my doubts.
I’ve watched enough of the show to hear you say you only care about money and that you go to bed thinking about money and wake up thinking about money. I’ve listened to you tell us from your news room chair that global poverty is “fantastic news” because you believe it motivates the poor to become richer… As if poverty is a character flaw. Do you really understand so little about life outside your own experience?
You say in your statement that you “have spent a lifetime fighting on behalf of investors”. This seems to be the only qualification you claim in terms of what you’ve done for people.
So, why, when you have no personal financial stake in my well being, would you give a flying rip about fighting for me or anyone like me?
From the evidence in front of us, how would we know you actually care about the Canadian people and not just about your own investments?
Running a country is not simply a business investment. People’s lives are at stake every day. Do you really want to take on the responsibility of caring for them? Because that’s the job you’re applying for.
I had sincerely hoped to click on your political website and find out something new that would enlighten me to why you think you’re qualified for a leadership position in public service. I hoped I would see a resume of charitable foundations that are close to your heart, or volunteer work that you’ve done — anything selfless at all.
But the closest I could scrounge was “I have spent a lifetime fighting on behalf of investors”.
That means nothing to me, personally, seeing as I have no investments with you. Most Canadians don’t. So who do you really care about? Who are you going to listen to? Who will have your ear when big issues arise? People like me… or your investors?
If you want this job, you need to understand that we’ve all heard you brag about being greedy. I’m not going to trust that you care about me now, simply because you say so. The only thing you’ve publicly demonstrated to date is that you’re only interested in serving yourself. Whether you’ve been acting as a character for TV or not, you’ll have to show us something new if you want be considered for this position.
Talk is cheap. Do something. Show us you have a conviction that doesn’t involve you getting richer or more famous.
Here’s some advice from a hard working Canadian: If you want be a boss, do what the rest of us have to do when starting a new career.
Start small. Maybe volunteer, the way interns have to. Then try a representing a riding or maybe become the mayor of something. See how that goes. Perhaps eventually you can try leading a province. I bet you’ll learn a lot! There are plenty of options out there that’ll get you the experience you need.
When you can show me a good resume, I may consider you qualified for the position.
The Average Canadian
Here is my advice on how to get ahead in any industry. It may not translate into actual dollars, but it’s worth more than that.
Change your idea of “networking”.
I would much rather play the long game, so to speak. If I can slowly get to know one good person as a real human being – even if it takes four or five years to be able to call them “friend” – I will invest in that opportunity over a party filled with celebrities and influential bosses any day.
Because what good are “connections” if they don’t even necessarily like you? There are thousands of people who do what you do, and they’re probably better at it. But to make a real friend, without any expectations – that’s unique.
To be able to have one person turn to you when they’re in trouble and know they can trust you to ask for help – that fills hearts and makes life-long impacts.
Connections for their own sake are empty, much like fame for fame’s sake. Unless you’re a sociopath, the feeling you get in your gut from using people is a sick and sour one.
But friends who help friends simply because they care – that’s a solid foundation for big things. Those are the real connections you’ll reap the benefits of in business and elsewhere for the rest of your life.
One of those relationships is worth one thousand shallow business card exchanges.
So when you’re at your industry conventions and festivals, I encourage you to skip a few official schmoozing events to pop out for a drink with the people you’ve met. That’s where you’re more likely to start something lasting.
(Some things that contribute to “choosing a client over crew” include: unreasonable deadlines, unreasonable quotas, under staffing your crew, paying your crew too little, unlimited revisions for the client – essentially, all of the things that you want to offer to win a client, but that your crew will suffer for.) When you write a contract for a job, always consider who will be staying evenings and weekends in order to fulfill the promises you’re making.
I work in the commercial animation industry where, like the rest of TV and film, there is a major, inexcusable, and definitely not accidental gap when it comes to gender and creative leadership. Even now in 2015, when official policies state otherwise.
As someone who directs and plans to direct more and bigger, I’m personally offended – like a punch to the gut – when I go from studio to studio and see 100% men doing what I was made to do.
It’s a clear message to me that says, “You’re not allowed”.
Dear women in business,
Here is something I’ve been learning:
Now is the time.
Now it’s about time.
We need to show up at the door of the places we want to be and we need to stop asking permission to be there.
The men don’t ask permission. They assume it’s their right to be where they want to be. Let’s adopt that sense of privilege. There is no reason we shouldn’t.
I know for your whole career there has been some room you’ve been told you’re not allowed to enter.
You’re told this by having witnessed that no matter how qualified you are, only men get that job. Year after year, decade after decade.
I understand that after so long of being passed over, you eventually give up trying. The fight can become so tiring that it stops being worth it.
I’m telling you now that the winds are changing. The old boys are dying out and the “no girls allowed” clubs are no longer appropriate.
But official policies aren’t good enough anymore. They’re completely empty without action.
We need to start be bosses – we need to assume we can. And once we are bosses we need to hire each other as much as we hire men.
We can be our own worst enemies. And it’s not acceptable.
We will never make real, practical change unless we show up without apology, stop asking permission to be there, and work together as stepping stones for each other, toward real opportunities.
Most of us don’t show up for those opportunities, because we think we need to be the best before we even try. After all, if you become the first female boss in what you do, you’ll bee seen as an ambassador for all women. If you stink, we all stink, right?
Well, look around! There are all varieties of men who stink at their job and they don’t reflect on all mankind. They only reflect on themselves.
Their bar isn’t set nearly as high as the one we set for ourselves.
Half of them BS their way into the job and then fumble their way through it until they get good.
So, just go! Take one step forward with confidence. Learn. Compare merit to merit and that is all.
When anyone (men and women) tell you you’re being too bossy or too outspoken or forward, you make that your background music as you pass them by on your walk to success.
When they tell you you’re being paranoid, because this prejudice doesn’t exist, you pity them for the tiny bubble they live in and the small world view they have.
Now be good at what you do, represent yourself, and keep showing up at that door.
We are 50% of the human population and we are qualified.
photo by lightmonkey.ca
Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who went walking alone in an enchanted forest.
She met a frog who could talk for some reason.
She didn’t question it, because she wasn’t very bright. The gene pool of the enchanted royal family was embarrassingly small and the princess’ IQ showed it.
The frog said, “If you kiss me, something amazing and magical will happen!”
The princess kissed the frog and immediately she turned into a chicken.
“That’ll teach you to go kissing strangers in the woods.” he said and he hopped away.
Rejected by her royal family, The Princess now needs a new home. Will you take her home?
Who wouldn’t want to receive this little baby cakes for Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa.
She truly is the rarest animal on earth and the most magical snail monster you’ll ever meet.
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